This year has been a year of many changes for me. This year, Taufiq and I decided to take the next step in our relationship. We have been together for almost 3 years. That’s not a very long time but to be honest, from the very first time we met, I knew he was ‘the one’. It might have taken me awhile to fully comprehend it, but deep down in my gut, I just knew, no matter how cliche it sounds. He is exactly how I envision my future husband to be – smart, caring, kind, patient. His good looks are just a plus point (haha!).
Our engagement is not something I did not see coming at all. Early last year, we had applied for a BTO together, the process some might call the ‘typical Singaporean way of getting engaged’. So all along, we both knew that we had an end goal in mind, which was marriage, a home, a future and a family together.
While some might say the entire BTO process takes away the ‘romance’ from the engagement and proposal, I beg to differ. To me, I see it simply as a form of commitment that both of us had made. Plus, I have to give props to this guy. While our engagement is something I expected would come eventually, I had zero clue on the proposal. Heck, I didn’t even know how or when it was going to happen. And I did not even choose my own ring!
I’m typing this all down at 1.05am on a Saturday night just for my own memories sake. The proposal was such a special moment, a memory I hope to remember forever. While I am not exactly the most active on this blog, I have made it a point to jot down all the major milestones in my life. And of course, this proposal as a majoooorrrrr one. So here is how it all went down.
A couple of weeks before the 10th of February, Taufiq told me to keep myself free on this day because he was taking me out on a date. He said it was a surprise…and naturally, I was a tad bit suspicious. It was not our anniversary and although it was close to Valentine’s Day, we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. I tried to ask him what the special occasion was but he simply said we hadn’t been out on a proper date for so long, so I left it as that.
On that day, he picked me up at my place and said we were going for high tea. He didn’t tell me where we were going, but I figured it out in the cab as the driver’s screen basically said ‘GARDENS BY THE BAY’ hahahah. He took me to Pollen, my first time at this beautiful place, and the perfect setting for high tea in the afternoon.
Diners at Pollen can actually walk around the Flower Dome after for free, so that’s basically what we did after. I still had no clue whatsoever on what was happening, but Taufiq told me he wanted to go for a photography exhibition at St. Regis after. We hopped into a cab and I quizzed him on why the exhibition was at the hotel and he came up with a (very convincing) story of how St. Regis supports the arts and they have a couple of galleries in the hotel bla bla. He even asked me why I didn’t notice the art hanging at the lobby when I was there a couple of days ago (I was there for a work meeting).
When we got to the hotel I said I needed the toilet. And proceeded to take my time fixing my hair hahahah. At this point he must have been totally anxious but his clueless girlfriend was just whiling time away in the toilet. (P.S St. Regis’ toilet is NEXT LEVEL)
FINALLY when I was done we headed into the lift. Suddenly he whipped out a room key card and started fumbling with it. This was when I got suspicious. I was not supposed to see the key card but he was having some trouble getting it to work. So I asked him, “Why do you have a key card?” I mean, why on earth would he have a key card to enter a gallery?!?! He started laughing, and the door opened to the floor we were supposed to exit on and he began leading me through the hallway while I was bugging him the whole way with “What is happening?” “Why do you have a card??!!”
We got to the door of a room and he stopped to say, “Because we’re not going to an exhibition.” My heart started POUNDING. He opened the door and I was greeted by the sight of balloons, candles etc. etc. Realisation began to set in and Taufiq began his speech and revealed the most beautiful ring…I’ll keep what he said private for just the two of us.
He got down on one knee, and of course I said yes! The hilarious bit was when I took the ring out by myself and asked him “So which hand is it supposed to be on?” He was like “I don’t know you’re supposed to know better!” And I answered with “Hmm I think it should be left” and proceeded to put the ring on my own finger hahahhahhaha.
I love my ring so much. To be honest, I don’t have a dream wedding ring in mind. But Taufiq could not have chosen a design so perfectly. ❤
The decor was done by one of my best friends, Ann. I am so grateful to have so much love surrounding me. And to have such a wonderful friend to put in 110% into this once in a lifetime moment.
For dinner that night, Taufiq brought me to P.S Cafe, where we had our first date. Things have really come full circle for us.
When Taufiq said we were staying the night, the first question that popped into my mind was “WHAT ABOUT MY CLOTHES?!” Being the masterful planner that he is, Taufiq already arranged for my sister to come down with an overnight bag for me. Thank God!
Of course, we understand that this proposal is not a norm in our culture. Little did I know, Taufiq had already planned out everything. He had asked my parents for permission to propose to me, and unknown to me, they had already planned a date for the traditional engagement ceremony to happen where his mum would officially put the ring on my hand. So technically, everyone was making preparations for this without my knowledge! Here are some shots from the day.
So, that is how it all went down. Taufiq and I are officially engaged and are ready to embark on this path towards marriage. Do pray for us and hopefully, this journey will be a smooth one.
I can’t wait!